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Complete Guide to Treating Depersonalization/Derealization

A lot of the information here provided is based on first hand experience and research and I hope many will benefit from what it has to offer. The less time you spend dealing with anxiety the more time you have left to enjoying life and that is the goal here.


Depersonalization is a state of consciousness, a form of out of body experience, characterized by intense feelings of dissociation, identity loss, confusion and feelings of being anyone but not self. Many compare this subjective occurrence to a dream-like or automated state in which reality lacks depth along with its usual complacence. The latter definition is frequently tagged, separately, as derealization, which evokes disconnection from the surroundings compared to depersonalization, which pertains mainly to one’s ego detachment. As peculiar and disconcerting it may sound and feel, it is a fairly common and widespread issue, plaguing legions anxiety sufferers.


It is not a coincidence that so many anxious individuals, including myself, are familiar with this term, not only from reading but from experience as well. In reality, anxiety is the main cause of depersonalization and it is anxiety which when alleviated brings about lessening of the dissociation. Therefore, in case you are new to being depersonalized, let go of your excessive worries and catastrophic theories of becoming insane or stuck forever in such a deranged state of mind as nothing along those lines is going to happen – it all tracks back to a harmless, although very uncomfortable, emotion notoriously known as anxiety.


The triggers of depersonalization range from drug experimentation to natural progression of anxiety. Those suffering from anxiety are at an elevated risk of experiencing depersonalization at one point or another and might be more sensitive to experiencing depersonalization in the presence of chemical triggers such as various psychedelics, including cannabis, dissociatives (ketamine, pcp), alcohol and even coffee – anything that has the potential to aggravate anxiety. Environmental triggers can be equally relevant and include speaking in public, abuse, car accidents and any other form of trauma. Triggering depersonalization is, often sadly, easier than recovering from it, but that should be nothing to discourage you as it is very much satisfying and possible.


Depersonalization is by no means permanent, at least the negative emotions, or better yet the lack of them, which it carries along with it are at most recurrent, but not persisting at a single level. The severity and recurrence rate all depend on your anxiety levels and how well are you able to keep your anxiety in check. Therefore if you know how to address and reduce the anxiety you also know how to reduce the side effects of anxiety including depersonalization.


As you might have guessed, treating depersonalization applies the same techniques as treating anxiety does and fortunately there are literally thousands of such techniques making selection difficult, but at the same time providing a lot of opportunity to gain relief. I have tested a generous bunch myself and here are some you might want to consider:

Supplements – Anxiety, as any state of consciousness, has its biological causes, in other words any change in consciousness, be it positive or negative, can be explained at a molecular level. Anxiety may arise from a variety of malfunctions in synaptic transmission, metabolism, absorption, and from deficiencies of essential nutrients. Therefore correcting the proper function will allow for reverting to a more pleasant mindset. Consider the following supplements: B-complex, Vitamin D, Vitamin C, Zinc, Magnesium, Calcium and many other minerals and vitamins which play important roles in cellular metabolism and neural firing. Incorporate them into your diet and see how you respond. In reasonable doses they possess no toxicity and carry no negative side effects so it definitely is worth a try. Additionally, there are supplements, which might not correct deficiencies, but affect other aspects of your physiology in favor of alleviating anxiety. These include L-theanine, GABA, Lecithin, Fish Oil, BCAA or Rhodiola Rosea among many others. These, generally, also posses low toxicity and therefore inflict no harm in case they bring no benefit to you.

Meditation – great for resting your mind and giving yourself some time to think about problems and devising their solutions. I recommend you to find at least 10 minutes daily, sit down and breathe deeply while allowing any thoughts to manifest and once then do simply observe and analyze them, do not react emotionally as you would normally with anxiety. What this does is allow you to become less impulsive and more resistant to anxious thoughts and situations. By not over-reacting emotionally you gain the advantage of rationalizing before acting, a characteristic practical not only to anxiety sufferers.

Analyze and address the sources of your anxiety – to be really successful at keeping your anxiety at bay you will need to look at the very core sources of your anxiety. These might be, for example, maladaptive behaviors or thinking processes you have taken up on. In my case, it were irritating, attacking thoughts, which many of you might be familiar with, that invaded my consciousness refusing to leave. For better illustration purposes let us dissect this particular problem and consequently solve it:

Example of a problem

Wanting everything to be perfect at all times and costs can be a great motivation, but only within limits. Trying to live up to unreasonably high standards and consistently obsessing about your failures or events you misinterpret as failures, although they were fairly successful relatively speaking, will trigger a difficult to reverse cascade of anxiety. Constantly asking questions of the type what if it happened differently? or why me? why am I so unlucky? am I turning crazy? successfully consumes your focus pulling you out of reality, which deserves most of your focus, into a confined department filled with profoundly negative thoughts. As you might have noticed from experience this can become quite a habit and habits are hard to break so in a sense you become addicted to anxious thinking. Unfortunately, the thinking begins to projects into behavior and starts eliciting physiological responses characteristic to anxiety such as panic attacks, racing heart and restlessness. Now the habit becomes even harder to break as you have associated it with strong emotions further imprinting the experience into your memory. See how this becomes a never-ending problem that constantly gains in force? Therefore it is important to break the habit as soon as possible to save yourself from prolonged struggling and it is why some patience and time are required to break the habit as you need to replace the practice with a healthier one.

Solution to the problem

Recognizing what the problem is and that it is an anxious response rather than a normal form of reasoning is the first move. The issue in this case is over-thinking and exaggerating so you will want to rationalize the response by questioning the negative questions/exaggerations. You might want to ask yourself: What are the chances of me going crazy considering that I have already experienced this without turning psychotic? Did it really turn out so bad? In other words, you are fighting your anxiety, which skews your view on reality, by using evidence and reason to counter its proposals. By adapting approaches like this one or similar and replacing the previous, detrimental one you successfully break the vicious loop.

Parting words:

Hopefully, by now what you are experiencing seems no longer so hopeless and unmanageable. Anxiety might have many tricks in its sleeve to surprise you with, but there are as many if not more techniques to counter those attacks. As soon as I have started working on my anxiety, instead of just waiting for it to pass on its own, I started to feel the difference between anxiety and no anxiety. Anxiety signals for a change in life-style so try to listen, decipher that signal and take the required measures.

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Can Valerian Root Help Relieve Flight Anxiety?

Every year air travel is used by a higher and higher percentage of Americans to the point where it is now almost completely unavoidable. Air travel is now just another means of transportation that is nothing out of the ordinary.

While most people have heard the statistic that you are more likely to be killed just driving your car every day than you are to be involved in a plane crash, this does nothing to help those who suffer from severe flight anxiety. Flight anxiety is sometimes difficult to define and understand. This is because nearly everyone who flies experiences some form of flight anxiety at some point during the flight. For most people this feeling goes away quickly, and they go throughout the rest of the flight in relative relaxation. However for the unlucky few this feeling comes as soon as the plane starts to taxi, or even before, and lasts until the plane is fully on the ground again.

To deal with this problem everyone has his or her own approach. For some they choose the ostrich approach, that is to stick their head in the ground and simply ignore the problem. For others they rely on alcohol or prescription medicines. Both of these have very undesirable side effects.

Another, much preferable method, is the use of natural supplements. One that works quite well for flight anxiety is Valerian Root. This root has been used for centuries as a natural source of anxiety relief. If the anxiety sufferer takes 150-450 mg of Valerian root shortly before the flight they should experience a much more pleasant flight.

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How to Deal with Anxiety Tension Headaches

Do you often experience pain in your head area like you have a very tight band around it? If this pain comes whenever you are having stress, then chances are you might be having an anxiety tension headache. We all experience headaches occasionally. Sometimes, it is not just a mere headache but it can actually be a symptom of an underlying illness.

Tension headaches are probably one of the most common types of headache, yet a lot of people don’t have any idea what it really is. In truth, the specific cause of tension headaches still remains unknown. Medical experts used to believe that tension headache root from muscle contraction in your face and neck area that may be caused by anxiety, tension, stress or other strong emotions. Modern studies by the International Headache Society emphasizes that there is no connection between head pain and muscle tension as evident in several electromyogram tests. Studies conducted show that there were no relevant muscle activities that may these headaches.

If you are experiencing anxiety tension headaches, you are fortunate enough because there are a lot non-drug treatments that can help give you relief from stress headaches. You basically need to practice healthy habits and have a good rest. Eating the right food and exercise could also help.

Some signs of tension headache include insomnia and loss of appetite. You would also find yourself having difficulty concentrating. Some shows signs of irritability and fatigue. Most people with tension headaches complain that their scalp, shoulder and neck muscles have general feeling of tenderness, which makes them get tired easily.

There are a number of over-the-counter pain reliefs from headaches. The most popular drugs for anxiety tension headaches are aspirin, ibuprofen and acetaminophen. Examples of these common brands in the market are Advil, Tylenol and Motrin, among others. These medications are actually pain relievers. You can buy them without prescriptions in your local drugstore. There is only one precaution when using painkillers, never overuse them! It would only cause the pain to get even worse.

Most tension headaches are triggered by anxiety or stress. It can actually last for as long as a week or as short as 30 minutes. If you have headache attacks all the time, it may be a case of chronic headache that can continue for years.

Aside from stress and anxiety, tension headaches can be triggered by lack of good posture. Hormonal changes, like during menstruation or pregnancy can also cause tension headaches. Skipping meals and lack of sleep is also not a good thing. Exercise or any physical activity is recommended. With proper rest and good health habits, you can prevent headaches and continue with your daily activities without interruption.

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Grad School Burnout – Mild Or Severe Depression, Anxiety and Stress Symptoms in Graduate Students

Education that is “a way of life” may create vulnerability

Grad school is a long haul educational enterprise. Many Doctoral programs last 5 to 7 years, on top of the five to six years typically required to get the BA and a Masters degrees which precede it. Students who aspire to graduate degrees usually have a history of dedicated scholarship which extends back into high school or even elementary school. For many Grad students education has literally been “a way of life”… sometimes the only way of life that is well known or familiar.

Linda Curci of the Caltech Counseling Center suggests that:

“Burnout is a process that happens gradually over time. It creeps up on a person through an accumulation of random minor negative thoughts, sporadic lost hopes, and a series of small disappointments in oneself. Burnout is a painful process that includes emotional exhaustion, a loss of pleasure in interpersonal relationships, and a diminished sense of self worth. Burnout is the result of trying too hard for too long in a situation where the odds are against meeting one’s expectations. People who burn out are intelligent, dedicated people who have high expectations for themselves.”

Grad school can be an emotional and psychological “trial by fire” and burnout tends to happen when you’ve been pushing too hard for too long and

The warning signs of burnout are:

  • Loss of interest in or questioning the meaning of your studies and research.
  • Chronic fatigue – exhaustion, a sense of being physically run down and emotionally flat
  • Anger at those making demands
  • Cynicism, negativity, and irritability
  • A sense of being besieged
  • Feelings of helplessness

From the point of view of a psychologist however, there is a bit more to be seen in some of the typical symptoms.

Perfectionism – As Curci suggests, one common area of difficulty lies in the impossibility of meeting expectations and all too often these exaggerated expectations are inner demands rather than outer ones.

Perfectionism, can create an inability to start or finish major tasks. Perfectionists are their own worst critics. Nothing is ever good enough and this constant self-criticism leads to paralysis or avoidance which sabotages progress.

Perfectionism is always a defense. Individuals with perfectionistic expectations hope, (wish), need, to protect themselves from all failure or criticism. This criticism which is imagined to be emanating from others is usually coming from within. This can create a vicious circle of fear-driven effort which no amount of external evidence of success ever seems to correct… if only because the possibility of failure cannot ever be reduced to zero.

Suffering in silence – Grad students are individuals who have accepted to put themselves under the yoke of a program of training. They have often given up or put aside valid needs and desires in the name of their studies. They have left countries, communities, families, and personal relationships to follow their studies and often set aside personal interests and pleasures to fulfill program requirements.

The pain and anger caused by these losses is real but because the demands have been undertaken “voluntarily,” individuals often feel they have no right to complain… or to grieve. These strong and relevant feelings, when unacknowledged can eventually insist on being experienced psychologically and emerge as depression, or as anger and cynicism towards a program which has been responsible for so much pain.

Fear of graduation? Grad students, as noted above, are often individuals who have dedicated themselves for most of their young adult life to a particular academic world. As the end of a program of study comes into sight questions may arise about how to live in the real world. A whole different set of competencies may be felt, frighteningly, to be lacking.

Supervisory strain – While Grad school programs are often well organized to support academic development, supervisors vary in their ability to be helpful with the more personal challenges of their students. In fact if the interpersonal relationship is not optimum the supervisory relationship may even be an additional stressor.

Ill-Health and Computer crashes… The psyche’s hardware and software solutions to stress – Even when the strain of grad school is not extreme enough to create a full-scale burnout, it may manifest itself in chronic or minor health problems, particularly those which are significantly related to stress such as headaches, migraines, stomach problems, asthma, sleep difficulties…and if it’s not you getting sick, maybe it will be your computer…

Strategically timed computer crashes can be caused by inattention and neglect as the over-stressed psyche looks for ways to create time out.

Cumulative strains – Even if you have been sailing through Grad school for the most part without excessive perfectionism or personal sacrifices, the long term stress of grad school may interact cumulatively with other stressful events such as unavoidable major losses or personal setbacks and funding crises to throw even the most balanced student over the edge into depression or burn-out

Leading a whole human life – The world needs the passion and enthusiasm of those individuals who are willing to push forward into the highest levels of knowledge in their domains, to broaden and deepen what we think and know. It is a loss to us all if students burn out or drop out in despair after such significant investments in their studies.

But the excessive and exclusive focus on their values as scholars may lead Grad students to neglect other aspects of their humanity. Often what is most needed is compassionate and encouraging human contact and reassurance that they are valuable and valued in the world as individuals outside of their studies.

Some general notes on depression

Common signs and symptoms of depression include:

  • a persistent sad or “empty” mood
  • loss of interest or pleasure in activities that were once enjoyed
  • loss of appetite or weight loss
  • sleep problems
  • fatigue, despite adequate sleep
  • feelings of pessimism, guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
  • indecisiveness, difficulty concentrating
  • psychomotor slowing or agitation
  • thoughts of wanting to escape, hopelessness, suicidal thoughts

At its extreme end depression can become so severe that it can create suicidal feelings or thoughts. If you experience suicidal thoughts or feelings, it is very important to:

  • Make taking care of yourself your top priority.
  • Talk about these thoughts with someone. Don’t suffer in silence.
  • Contact your institution’s counseling center for an assessment or referral to community or other mental health services.

If these symptoms seem all too familiar, you might like to take an on-line depression screening test or contact your counseling center or a mental health professional for an assessment.


Linda Curci, (Caltech Counseling Center)

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Cure Your Heartburn – A Reader’s View

Anyone who suffers from heartburn or acid reflux would understand the pain and frustrations of these conditions. Apart from the physical pain, you are also faced with the dilemma looking for the right cure or treatment. I tried many heartburn treatments but in the end, it was the home remedies that worked for me. And here is my story.

I started to feel burning sensations in my chest and pains at my back. The pains got extremely bad. They felt like a heart attack and on a number of occasions, I attended the accident and emergency department of my local hospital.

A doctor decided to carry out a medical test on me. He explained that a camera would be inserted through my mouth into my stomach to determine underlying medical problems. I was relieved heart attack was ruled out.

I couldn’t describe how anxious l felt during the test, which ended up successfully. The doctor diagnosed acid reflux as the cause of my heartburn. This means acidic contents from my stomach re-fluxed upwards into my esophagus, irritating the lining and caused the heartburn. I felt better after I completed a 28 day course of omeprazole that the doctor prescribed for me. But weeks after the treatment the heartburn returned. I was devastated.

Out of desperation I started surfing the internet, digging for information on how to cure my heartburn. During one of these searches, I discovered a website which sells an ebook on how to cure heartburn and acid reflux. I read the sales letter and the testimonials. Amazingly, I discovered that this simple 32-page ebook changed the lives of more than 40 people in different countries around the world.

I found out how this ebook helped these people to cure their heartburn. Without thinking, I bought the ebook and downloaded it instantly within seconds. I read it on the same day and started to apply everything it said within a couple of hours.

Imagine how I felt after 3 days when I woke up one morning and went through the day without a single episode acid reflux or heartburn. I continued to feel better the following day and then the day after. It then dawned on me that the heartburn cure worked. Within one week I said good-bye to my heartburn and acid reflux.

With this positive experience I now decided to review this ebook, which I hope could benefit you too.

This is a 32-page instant downloadable e-book, written in plain simple English, which teaches you how to naturally cure your heartburn, acid reflux and digestive disorders. The author is William Lagadyn, a Natural Health Medical Researcher, Certified Nutritionist and Health Consultant. He suffered from heartburn and acid reflux himself and spent 15 years researching the conditions.

He offers a system that will cure naturally and permanently your heartburn and acid reflux. He presents in simple English what causes heartburn, acid reflux and other stomach conditions such as peptic ulcers.

He also presents a simple step by step plan, which shows you how to naturally heal your damaged esophageal sphincter valve and cure your heartburn within few days. The following are the areas he covered in his ebook:

• What really causes heartburn and acid reflux (pages 1-7)

• How to prevent chronic heartburn (pages 7-10)

• How to fix your heartburn problems fast (page 7)

• How your esophagus and LES got damaged (page 3)

• Why your esophagus is malfunctioning (page 3)

• How to live without drugs… Because you won’t need them (pages 14-32) and many others.

To conclude I am very grateful that this simple easy to follow ebook has helped me to cure my heartburn and acid reflux in less than a week. More than 40 people living in different parts of the world also testified how this simple ebook had changed their lives. The simple plan presented in this ebook does not require a long drawn process of a special diet, more exercise and other things others that you probably found in other books.

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Trivita Products – Real Value or Overpriced Hoopla?

Trivita Products…you mean to tell me that there’s more to Trivita health and wellness products than Nopalea? Actually, Nopalea is the spanking new star product from the already more than 10-year-old company TriVita, founded in 1999 CEO Michael Ellison, a company which has an additional 24 products listed on the company website.

Before we examine what kind of quality and value Trivita is offering in the health and wellness industry, let’s take a look at precisely WHAT kinds of products they are offering. The company website allows you to sort through the Trivita products in two ways – by category and by health concern. I found this to be very beneficial since they have 25 products that all address different health issues. The categories are:

  • foundational nutrition
  • targeted nutrition
  • weight loss and
  • children’s.

If you choose to sort Trivita products via the “sort by health concern” tab, it will present the following list for you to choose from:

  • healthy blood sugar
  • children’s
  • detoxification
  • healthy bones
  • joint care
  • your daily foundation
  • energy, stamina and recovery
  • healthy heart
  • healthy immunity system
  • men’s health
  • mind, memory and mood
  • pain and inflammation relief
  • sleep
  • stress relief
  • vision
  • weight loss
  • women’s health

Considering the list above, it looks as if Trivita products cover a pretty broad range of health concerns for most individuals, and maybe even some that you might not have thought you could find a supplement for. So what are these 24 products that complete the Trivita product line along with the new Sonoran Bloom Nopalea? To simplify things, I’m going to list them by category, and they are as follows:

Foundational Nutrition:

  • HCY Guard®
  • OmegaPrime®
  • Sublingual B-12 and Super Sublingual B-12
  • VitaDaily AM/PM™
  • Vital C
  • Wellavoh®

Targeted Nutrition:

  • Adaptogen 10 Plus®
  • Balanced Woman
  • Bone Growth Factor
  • CoEnzyme Q-10
  • Energy Now!
  • GlucoManage®
  • Joint Complex
  • Nopalea™
  • Peaceful Sleep™
  • Prostate Health Formula™
  • Quick-Relief™ Gel
  • Super Antioxidant Complex™
  • VisionGuard™
  • VitaCal-Mag D

Weight Loss:

  • Leanology® Appetite Control
  • Leanology® Nutritional Shake
  • Leanology® Weight Loss Capsules


  • TriVita® Kids Multi-Vitamin

Alright, it appears as if there are many cool Trivita products, but the important question here is: are they quality products with real value, or are they simply the same kinds of products that you’d expect to find in Walmart or Costco, only they come with a bigger price tag attached? That is typically one of the first questions that people ask whether they’re considering the company as a customer or as a network marketer. So let’s examine the claims Trivita makes that makes their health and wellness products stand out from the competition.

As for Nopalea, the new shining star of the Trivita products, it really has no competition in regards to its’ primary ingredient to speak of…yet. But what about the rest of their products? What sets them apart?

In order for them to make good on their promises to produce cutting edge quality products, Trivita developed, and claims to “rigorously follow, a strict adherence to a code of quality, integrity and innovation…called our 10 Foundational Values.” Here they are:

  • Physician-Approved Formulas
  • Unique Delivery Systems
  • Controlled Laboratory Studies
  • Purest Natural Ingredients
  • Pharmaceutical-Grade Quality
  • Third-Party Testing and Certification
  • Quality-Controlled Packaging and Production
  • Dedicated to Product Innovation
  • Medical Advisory Board
  • Complete 60-Day Satisfaction Guarantee

The length of time that Trivita has been in business – since 1999 – speaks volumes about the quality and even the value of Trivita products. If they put out junk or a lot of products with inflated prices with no real value, they would have folded up and gone the way of scads of other health and wellness companies that have risen and fallen over the years. So the evidence would suggest that Trivita does indeed manufacture products that have value and merit.

With that conclusion being established here in this review of Trivita products, the fact still remains that if you’re building a Trivita business, having great products, although very important, in no way, shape or form guarantees your success. You can literally have the most fantastic products in the world, but if you do not understand marketing, if you do not understand how to leverage the internet like the top earners in this industry are doing, then you are doomed to join the 97% of network marketers that fail in this industry.

But it is also true that it doesn’t have to be that way. While you’re researching the mlm company you’re considering joining, make sure you do you’re research on finding a generic marketing system that you can plug into so you can start making money right away with whatever mlm company you choose to team up with. That’s really the key to mlm success…you need the whole package, and not just one aspect of it. So get busy, so your research, and make things happen!

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Monophobia: What Causes Monophobia?

Monophobia is a fear of being alone, it is not a particularly common phobia but it can be very debilitating for the people who have it. Like most phobias the first step to getting over it is to figure out what is causing your fear. The causes of monophobia are not all that surprising if you think about what would cause you to be afraid of being alone.

Like most phobias the causes of monophobia usually start in childhood. The most likely cause is being abandoned by a parent when you were a child. This tends to lead to a feeling of being unloved or unwanted. This leads to a feeling when we get older that people are going to leave and this causes a fear of being left alone. Basically the fear is that they won’t come back if they leave so there is a fear of being left alone.

Another common cause of monophobia is being abused as a child. Obviously the more people there are around the less likely it is that a child will be abused. This usually leads to a fear of what will happen when we are left alone. As we get older we continue to have this fear. In some cases this type of fear can start as adults. Children are of course not the only people who suffer from abuse and adults who are abused are just as likely to suffer from a fear of being alone.

It is important to keep in mind that that monophobia is not the same as not being comfortable when you are alone. There are lots of people who are uncomfortable by themselves, particularly if they have never had to do it before. Most people tend to grow up surrounded by family members so it can be frightening when they move out on their own and don’t have anybody around. In some very rare cases this can lead to monophobia however it rarely rises to this level. Most people are uncomfortable when they are first left alone but it usually doesn’t take that long to get used to it.

The important difference between monophobia and just not being comfortable by yourself is whether or not there are panic attacks. If you actually have a phobia there will be physical symptoms in the form of a panic attack when you are left alone. If you do not experience these you do not have a phobia, you may still have an issue that needs to be addressed but it is not monophobia.

Monophobia can have a serious impact on your life so if you suffer from it you are going to want to take steps to address. Having to always have other people around can seriously limit the things that you are able to do. Getting over monophobia is not all that different from the way that you would address any other phobia. You will likely need the assistance of a therapist who will help you to examine the reasons for your phobia. You will also need to work on exercises to desensitize yourself to being alone.

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How Can I Overcome and Control My Phobia and Fear of Needing a Toilet in Public?

It is common for people who suffer from various forms of anxiety to feel that they may experience a loss of control of their body functions, due to their anxiety, when out and about in public. Whilst this may sound almost ridiculous to a more calm, and collected person, these fears can literally take over a person’s life for whom fear and anxiety play a substantial part. I would like to point out, however, that more and more often, these are only thoughts rather than facts, where the person is only concerned they may not have any control of their toileting, but actually are fine with it.

To explain this more clearly, these people are usually absolutely fine at home, and have no problem at all. The real issue is they become over anxious outside, and begin to imagine the worst scenarios that may occur.

Having explained the issue, what about the best way to tackle it? I feel the most appropriate way to manage the toilet phobia issue, is to go out, possibly alone, to avoid embarrassment of friends, and so on, and go to a place you know, like your local shopping centre. Then, ensure you know where the wash rooms actually are, and make a point of positioning yourself far away from them, but still knowing where they are, if you should need them. This way, you can concentrate on the next step, whilst putting your anxiety of them being inaccessible, aside.

The best thing to do is ensure that you are aware of the difference of when you actually need to go, because your bladder is full, versus your anxiety telling you that you must go. Given ‘reflective time’, you will know the difference. To explain this point further, it is usually the anxiety of being embarrassed in a public, social situation, instead of you not having control of yourself. Hence, understanding the difference, and practicing in this way, will help you to better manage your anxious thoughts, and in time, overcome them as well.

In the event that you should start to feel apprehensive or feel the fear looming, simply acknowledge to yourself that the fears are OK. By accepting them, they will soon pass. The fear becomes a problem when you actually try to deny it, as it is at that point, that the panic can set in. However, you know you have control of your body, and acceptance of the feelings will speed up their departure.

You may need to practice these ‘outings’ on a regular basis, but the feelings will dissipate and you will find that you can gradually introduce your friends into the social picture, and cope very well.

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Yeast Infection Home Remedy

Looking for a yeast infection home remedy?

Yeast infections can be very uncomfortable. Sometimes the itching and discomfort can get so bad it is difficult to go about your daily routine. Wouldn’t it be great if there were an easy remedy instead of having to make an appointment at the medical clinic and go through all that hassle?

In fact, you may have an infection remedy in your kitchen right now. You may not even need to go to the store to get relief.

Before we start talking about remedies, it will help if you know a little about how these infections work. These infections are caused by bacteria we harbor in our bodies all the time… Candida albicans. Usually Candida behaves itself, and helps us fight off the other nasty bugs out there.

When there is an imbalance in the body, Candida can grow out of control causing an infection. Imbalances can be caused by illness, stress, anxiety, diabetes or the consumption of too many foods that break down into sugars in the body.

Foods that do this are anything sugary and carbohydrates. If you balance these foods with protein and vegetables, the chances of developing a food-related yeast infection will drop.

Now it’s time to look in your kitchen for that yeast infection home remedy. The most commonly used home remedy is plain yogurt. You may have that in your refrigerator already if you use it for cooking or you like your yogurt plain.

If you do find some plain yogurt with active cultures hidden inside your fridge, freeze a small dollop of it to insert in the area affected by the yeast infection. The Lactobacillus acidophilus inside the yogurt is the active ingredient here. It can restore your balance of bacteria and cure your infection. Be careful… this remedy is messy, but effective.

If you don’t have any yogurt, what about a clove of garlic? Garlic powder won’t cut it here… you need a clove. If you have minced garlic in a jar in the refrigerator, it may be possible to use if you can wrap it securely in enough cheesecloth to prevent any of the small bits from escaping.

The whole point is you want to be able to retrieve it all after a few hours. Garlic is fast and effective. It only needs to be in place for a short time. If you need to apply it again the next day, go ahead, but again only leave it for a few hours.

If you don’t have garlic cloves, check your medicine cabinet for tea tree essential oil. A few drops of this potent oil will usually give you a lot of relief. Tea tree oil is very strong, so you may want to mix those few drops with a couple tablespoons of olive oil.

The yeast infection home remedy you need may already be at hand. If you’re prone to infections, it may pay to keep a few of these items on hand so you can treat it at the first sign of trouble.

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The Three C’s of Stress Hardiness

We all know people who do well under stressful conditions, in fact, they seem to thrive on it.  These are “stress-hardy” folks, and here are three clues to how do it.  They form the basis of what’s called Transformational Coping.

In essence, stress-hardy people place potentially stressful events into a new frame of reference.  They have learned how to transform a stressful situation into an opportunity to be creative, or growth-enhancing, or maybe even uplifting or humorous. Rather than doing battle with an uncomfortable or unpleasant event, or taking it personally, they allow the situation to challenge them to learn, and to grow.

Here are the 3 C’s of transformational coping that stress-hardy people thrive on:

Challenge.  If we define stress as reacting to a comment or a situation as threatening, stress-hardy people take the view that a difficult  person or circumstance is a challenge that they can rise to.  Rather than feeling threatened, they reframe the event as an opportunity to be creative.  How do they do this?  One simple secret is that they become curious.  Rather than become defensive or falling back on old scripts, they take a moment to pause and get curious as to what would lead a person to make such an ‘outlandish’ claim.  They wonder what they might be missing, and they take an interest in finding other ways to approach situations that makes them stretch, and perhaps even shape events to their advantage.

Commitment. Stress-hardy people find meaning in their work. They feel that their work is connected to a higher purpose, and that their role contributes to a larger goal. Here are three possible answers a mason gives to the question:  What are you doing? “I am laying bricks,” is a cynical response. “I am earning a living,” is a joyless response. “I am building a cathedral,” shows a person connected to a larger purpose. The connection to something larger allows stress-hardy people to consider as minor annoyances things that might stop another person dead in his or her tracks.

Control. Stress-hardy people know when to hold and when to fold. They know when they can control events and when they can’t. They know how to let go and flow with events until they find an opening when they can again assert themselves. While they may give up, they don’t give in. They alter their strategy, including perhaps altering their goal, by going more deeply into their intention. They are attached to their intention, to expressing themselves, and to their goals, but not necessarily to the form that these take.

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